Sorry, But you are a Girl!

In an intent of comprehending my own ways, and follow the humanity's weekly trend of "zots", I'm trying to become a more serious writer by portraying in my terms what I think is the "moral" of the message this week. Yesterday, I had an enlightening "Gossip Girl" marathon with my sister and caught up with a perfectly fitted phrase to answer my writer's block: "A writer must write about what they know". After this the bitter writer would encourage his protege to find his own Bukowski (some crazy guy who shot an apple off his head) to encounter some of the thrill his writing was missing. Well, I don't need Bukowski, he's 50% of me.

So, off to the serious business!

Today is not like that day when I came home to write about random acts of redemption and self praisement. I have an inquiry. I have just crossed path with a group of interesting young women who think life should be taken for what it is. However, despite their bigger efforts to accept it, they end up in a couch bragging about how lonely their lovelifes really are. Now, How do u differ right from wrong?

When a young girl is growing up, mothers cannot stop repeating those "rules of proper behavior". I don't mean to say that I agree with all the traditional nonsense, which I'm not planning to abord in this paragraph, but I think that 50% of that is common sense, and we are lacking huge amounts of it. If it hurts, we want to stop the pain, we don't put the hand on the wound and rip our own limbs out. Then why do we let others?

I don't think I have to dig deep in the subject for the purpose of this blog entry to be comprehended. I'm offended by the way some of us, women, are portraying ourselves to be "disposable"; when a simple "I want...", or better yet, a simple "I demand...", can change it all for better.

What we think we want is not what we deserve. Unfortunately, here in Latin America we have been fed to settle with whatever we get. I once found a very eye opening article in Cosmo (yeah, "the" Cosmo). It was written by Candace Bushnell, the author of the famous book Sex and the City (yeah, "that" Sex and the City) and it mention a few details Moses obmitted from the Commandments:

1. "No man is coming to thy rescue". Translated to: There's no Prince Charming! As in reference to that man with the qualities you love...but don't have yourself. We should be developing those virtues in ourselves, and not expect another volatile human being to use them in our favor. Odds are short.

2."Love is not guaranteed". No, you will always have that. It's not a right. Nobody has to love you, but yourself. By this, I'm not trying to kill anyone hopes, but build some true foundation over that fact that happiness comes from within our own selves. (Gosh! didn't take me long to figure that one out).

3."If the sex is earth-shattering...". Then grab onto something so you won't fall!. Actually, a very important element of a relationship is that intimate communication, however, as we all know relationships have other factors too. But as I said before ...grab onto something and congrats!.

4."You will know when the ideal guy comes". There will be no doubts, no background check needed, quizzes nor blood tests. Also, something to have in mind, the reciprocation of those feelings, because that person has to feel the same too. It's better not to rush, the signs do not always come right away.

5."Imitate". When asking guys, which are they're priorities, they have answered; career and goals. The most important of what I have read in that article is that:"Your life revolves around your own story, your own adventures".

It should be more about where life takes you and what you learn of these "guy situations". I know it's extremely hard to find something worth-while but in the mean time, why not enjoy our own time. So, it sounds a bit ridiculous, it's not an invitation to celibacy, but it is indeed an invitation, to spending time with the most important person: you. Your goals, your hopes, your real desires. We don't even apply enough time on getting these things done to give up on them, then...UUUUH Cute boy spotted!!!. Our lifeplan shatters again, their lifeplan doesn't.

Love boys, great friends, sweet boyfriends (sometimes jiijij) but seriously girls, let's a get a grip.

If I don't take care of myself, who will?